Our journey throughout our first year of marriage and our second deployment.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

First Training and a Pretty Rough Day

David left yesterday morning for his first training in Fort Bruger (Sp.?). He was learning how to become efficient at and teach a new program they are working with. He said he had a good time, and was thankfully able to be home by the time my band rehearsal ended. So, that was exciting! He was able to spend time with his family and visit with mine a little too, since he was so close to home. So, happy to have him home, but today is just eating me up.

A year ago today, my hubby came back from Iraq for his leave. At this moment exactly, actually, he was getting off the plane and I was seeing him for the first time in about 7 months! We went to Panera for lunch and spent the day with his family at their house. We hardly spoke, mainly because his family was so anxious to see him and I knew I'd get my own time soon! At around 8 PM, we headed over to my house to see my family. My Mom, in particular was just so excited about him being home and spent a couple of days making sure our house was absolutely spotless. We spent about an hour and half with my family, my Mom was laughing and everything was just fine! We decided to go and hang out at the park to get some one on one time together. We hadn't even parked the car when my brother called to tell me my Momma had fallen and she wasn't responding. I thought it was all a joke at first and the closer I got to my house, the more panicked I became. As I pulled up, I saw the ambulance and the fire truck coming up behind me. I saw my beautiful 17 year old sister standing in the doorway on the phone, balling. I ran up the front walk, screaming and hollering to try and figure out what was going on and saw my Mom laying in the entry way with my Dad giving her CPR. My brother and sister were both having a rough time, so David and I pulled them together and prayed over and over for what felt like hours, but was only a couple of minutes. They brought my Mom out on the stretcher, she wasn't breathing on her own, and took her to the closest hospital. We stayed there for a few hours and then we had her life flighted to a larger hospital that could put her in ICU and help treat her better. She was thrashing and they thought for certain she had brain damage, but there was no certain answer. Her heart stopped and she went into cardiac arrest and upper respiratory failure and was without oxygen for 4 minutes. We spent a week in ICU with her and she went through multiple procedures, finishing with them putting a defibrillator in her. For many days we weren't sure whether or not she would have a memory span of more than a few minutes, or if she even remembered any of us at all. My Dad quoted scripture to her and stayed at her bedside the entire time. There was never a doubt of how much my Daddy loved my Momma, but he has shown it in immense measure over the past year.
Today marks the one year of the fall, the uncertainty, the months of recovery and the forever change in my Mother. It's been a rough day and on top of all of it, I dropped my phone and am unable to check my messages, much less call or receive a call from my family. I am blessed and thankful that she is here and alive, but at the same time, the thoughts and memories that encompassed that day haunt me.

Monday, February 15, 2010

He Pulled It Off!!

So, after the big pointless fight yesterday morning, we tried to settle things down and spend the rest of our First Valentine's Day together in a happy loving mood! I got a lot done while my Hubby was at work, minus my Chihuahua mix puppy, Belle getting sick. More on that later! I did all the laundry, cleaning, readings, homework! I even had time to take a shower and get ready as well as start making our hot and zippy sandwiches before the Hubby got home!!!
He helped me make dinner, which was amazing, and then surprised me with pre-bought Valentine's Day Movie tickets for that night!!! I was sooo excited and the movie was fabulous. And since we're doing this whole no facebook/myspace/twitter for a month thing, we were able to spend plenty of quality time together yesterday. Silly me for not remembering to document all of this. When I get caught up on scrapbooking, I'm going to be sad that I have no pictures to show for how incredible of a day we had yesterday!!
This morning, however, we woke to BUNCHES of little spots all over our bedroom floor. Belle has been sick all weekend and after cleaning everything up, we finally got to take her to the vet. She has a parasite, we have no idea how she received it, but she has to take meds for about a week and we are supposed to lather them in peanut butter so she doesn't taste the bitterness of the pill. But yeah! That and all the other drama going on at school and in my band fraternity. I'm really hoping and praying that this week gets better and that things improve in life and in school! Hope all of you had an amazing Valentine's Day filled with Love!!

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Valentine's Day So Far

Happy Valentine's Day! It is the most controversial holiday today, divided amongst people who do and do not have significant others to share it with, or are unable to be with their significant other.. OR they just don't like Valentine's day and they hype that comes with it. "I love Hype!" as Taylor Swift says in her new movie Valentine's Day! I've heard good things about it and can't wait for it to come out so we can watch it!

Anyway, on this day, my first ever valentine's day in 5 years to spend with my hubby, I decided to do little things on our tight budget. I spent over half an hour looking for the perfect card that told him just how much he meant to me, and then a little box of chocolates. I came into the office with them exactly at midnight and said "Happy Valentine's Day!!!" He smiled and opened the card, and then said he didn't get me anything yet. I laughed, but as selfish as it may be, I was deeply hurt. Now don't hate on me just yet. Let's back track to my birthday in October. We had been married two months and there was a lot going on with school, so I didn't really think about or get excited about my birthday until the day of. My husband did not say happy birthday at all, nor did he plan anything, make a card, nothing. I spent most of the day crying. When he finally realized that it upset me, he said we could have a redo and that he'd make it up to me. So we went out to eat and then back home and his friends came over and they sat around and played video games. One of them actually asked over a week in advance if he could make me a cake and made a lovely three layer funfetti cake with whipped cream and strawberry filling!! It was amazing!! Then, for Christmas, i got my husband and Special edition Mortal Combat 2 XBox 360 with the NCAA football 2010 game and a LOT of clothes for the winter along with stocking stuffers. He got me jewelry from Belk and then right before we were about to open our presents together, he races to Wal Mart and bought me some pink slippers and a huge bag of Guiradelli (sp?) chocolate. We still have some left over. I loved it and was appreciative of it, but I just felt like it was all so last minute and there wasn't any thought put into it which is SOO not like my husband.
He used to surprise me with little things, like a blanket to keep me warm, a chapstick holder so I could always have my chapstick on hand, a water bottle.. but it hasn't been the same since we've been married. Our roles in giving have switched where I know anything and everything he needs or could want (I didn't have a clue before) and he has no idea. I know most of it is because of his last tour and that his brain is on constant overflow, I just am not sure how to help that. So, after a rather large fight last night/this morning, we set some new rules. We're not using facebook, myspace, or twitter for at least a month, we have a bedtime :) and will be trying to go to bed at around 10 or 11 and waking up at 7, and we're switching to the envelope system. He's also going to start writing things down so he won't feel so overwhelmed and scatterbrained. But that's just so far. We still have our real Valentine's Day celebration. He gets off work at 6 and I'm not sure what we're going to do, but regardless I am going to be happy about being able to spend this wonderful day celebrating with my husband!! I hope you all have a wonderful day as well!


Saturday, February 13, 2010

Getting The Call

We have known for a couple of months that deploying is a possibility, but with both of us being in school, it gets a little tricky. In November, my husband called from drill telling me that they had just learned their unit may be going overseas within the next year. I was scared and nervous, I had just gotten used to married life and loved having him home. I was nowhere near ready to going back to the lifestyle that comes with having your fiance/husband deployed. By this, of course, I mean the constant worrying, sending emails and waiting for weeks to get any sort of communication back added to the loneliness of being separated from your other half and best friend. When he came home the next night, we talked about all the options. Since he's in school, he is technically not required to go. He could sign with ROTC, finish school, and then go active, or he could go, enroll in Officer's Candidate School when he got back, and finish school after that. There were various other options, but those were the main two. I love my husband and I know that he is one to follow through with his commitments. Nothing at all against ROTC, but if he decided to join, in his eyes it would be a way of getting out of a deployment. This time, it is his unit he would be deploying with, his brothers, his friends, and he would be in more of a teaching position, rather than a learning position. Most of the soldiers in his unit haven't even gone through basic and AIT yet and will most likely receive their orders at the end of this summer. Regardless to say, no matter how I felt, I knew deep down that my husband would be going on this tour, not because he had to, but because he is a soldier and is loyal to the United States Army and his promise to serve this country. He said that we would have a while to discuss whether he would go or not. He told me that I was the first thing he thought of when he heard the news, and that were we not together, he would go. But, then he said life isn't just about him anymore, that he had me to think of and to take care of and didn't want to leave me to go through another deployment, another year apart. Tearfully, I told him we didn't need months to decide this, but that he needed to go. He is a solider, and I am a Soldier's Wife! I have known this through our entire relationship and knew this is how our life would someday be.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, Plans to bring you hope and a future." -Jeremiah 29:11